I just read an article in Psychology today by Jean Anspaugh, entitled, “Can Dieting Ruin Your Marriage?” In the article she shares her story. She lost 100 pounds at the urging of her boyfriend. After she lost the weight they broke up. She is now married and has put 50 pounds back on and spends most of her life losing and regaining those last 50 pounds. Part of the problem, she says, is every time she goes on a diet her husband groans and her son complains that he will miss her “Texas sheet cake.” She ends by saying “Before, I die, I want to reach goal weight.”*
As I read the article I realized how lucky I am to have a wife, a family, and co-workers who support me in keeping my weight off. Without them I’m pretty sure I’d be losing the battle. This highlights an important point: When it comes to losing weight it is extremely important to have support. However, if you find yourself in a situation like Jean, you may have to drum up that support yourself. Here are some suggestions from our Full Plate Diet Weight Loss Program:
Be willing to ask for support. Don’t expect people to read your mind and understand your needs. Offer them a list of do’s and don’ts. For example:
- Do offer to help when I look overwhelmed
- Do tell me how proud you are that I’m losing weight
- Don’t keep asking me how I’m doing
- Don’t nag me
Obviously these may or may not work for you, come up with a list that works for you. Building a support team of people in your life is one of the most effective ways of helping you lose weight and keep it off.
If you’ve successfully built a support system to help you lose weight I’d love to hear your story.
*You can the article at: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/fat-us/201106/can-dieting-ruin-marriage